Parents Crossing 50 years of hem...uh...wedlock

Brassdad · Post by **Brassdad** » Sat Apr 15, 2006 4:51 pm

Next month my parents reach the golden anniversary. My wife and I are well on our way for the silver (24 years on July 4th).

I was wondering about the rest of the posters here.

Brassdad · Post by **Brassdad** » Sat Apr 15, 2006 5:20 pm

I know what you mean Bloke.
Ever since I was fortunate enough to have my wife fall in love with me, there have been friends, old school teachers, and family memebers wanting to know 1) was there something wrong with her, or 2) how did I get that lucky.
And, as a Marine, the turn-over rate on marrigaes is a bit high in my profession. In fact, when we were at 16 years, I was in a discussion with about 8 of my peers on this subject. The closest couple to us was at 8 years. Most were on their second marriage, and one guy was just getting completed on his FOURTH divorce.

Carroll · Post by **Carroll** » Sat Apr 15, 2006 6:36 pm

We lost my dad last fall... but today would have been 45 years with my mom.

18 for the missus and me.

tubatooter1940 · Post by **tubatooter1940** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 6:02 pm

November 28th made 44 years for us in our first marriage. I can never marry again because if I ever have to break in another one I would kill her and also having experienced the meanest woman I ever met, no other woman could make the pain feel quite the way it ought to.

Dan Schultz · Post by **Dan Schultz** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:14 pm

My wife and I have been married better than 70 years!

BETWEEN US, I MEAN!! I met her 11 years ago and we have been married nine years now. In case you haven't figured it out, we were both each married about 30 years before. Wish I would have discovered this gal in the 60's! This one plays a good saxophone. The first one only played with the checkbook and credit cards!

Brassdad · Post by **Brassdad** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 9:38 pm

TubaTinker wrote: The first one only played with the checkbook and credit cards!

I hate when they do that

windshieldbug · Post by **windshieldbug** » Mon Apr 17, 2006 12:04 am

I met mine the right way... on a tour, and like Dan, it's no. 2 for both of us. And if she gets a big head from reading this, than so be it, but - she was sent from heaven! And a word to everybody else; treat your babes right, because you never know when you're going to hit a mountain and need them the most!

LoyalTubist · Post by **LoyalTubist** » Mon Apr 17, 2006 4:11 am

I was married for twenty years. We filed for divorce before our 20th anniversary. It's not something I am proud of but I must carry on. I must admit that the marriage began to fall apart in the early years and we stayed together for the sake of our daughters.

Today, I have a girlfriend. I am still not completely healed from my divorce. My girlfriend and I plan to marry at the end of next year, unless I still feel apprehensive. I am so scared of messing up again.

Bill

windshieldbug · Post by **windshieldbug** » Mon Apr 17, 2006 10:24 am

Well Bill, just remember that marriage is like playing the tuba... in an orchesta; the standard is perfection, and whatever you do, Just Don't Screw Up!

TubaRay · Post by **TubaRay** » Mon Apr 17, 2006 12:35 pm

Matt Higgins wrote: Hope all is going great for everyone.
Matt

This is an unrealistic expectation in a marriage. I am quite happy in my marriage, but I have to admit that not everything goes great. I hear some people say they have enjoyed every minute of their marriage. I don't believe them. Marriage takes an effort. It calls for compromise. It is not easy. It can be worth it, though. It has been for me. I found a lady who has put up with me for a very long time.

Rick Denney · Post by **Rick Denney** » Mon Apr 17, 2006 9:00 pm

It took a LOOOONG time for me to meet someone who could put up with me--and who I could tolerate. "I wouldn't be a member of a club who would have me as a member."

Since I was well into my 40's before leaving bachelorhood, nearly all my friends were persuaded that I was not marriageable. They expect my wife to be a grim, bookish and boorish pedant like me. Everyone of my friends who has met my wife has expressed surprise first and foremost (Bloke knows what I mean by this--I've met his wife so I know he must get the same thing). Some are even shocked to discover that an pretty and engaging woman would subject herself thusly. There is no doubt that my status has been greatly improved by the association.

I always look forward to the first meeting between my wife and someone in my past.

(My parents celebrated their 50th last year.)

Rick "who got tuba duet advice for his own wedding right here on Tubenet" Denney

TubaRay · Post by **TubaRay** » Tue Apr 18, 2006 9:10 am

As Rick points out, some of us are more fortunate than others. He and I are to be included in this group of fortunate individuals.

Joe Baker · Post by **Joe Baker** » Tue Apr 18, 2006 9:27 am

windshieldbug wrote:Well Bill, just remember that marriage is like playing the tuba... in an orchesta; the standard is perfection, and whatever you do, Just Don't Screw Up!

... and you're least likely to screw up when you're tacit!

Also be sure you're always available, so there'll be no need for a "sub".

And when your stand-mate misses a cue or clams a note, let it go. Your turn is coming!

Finally, "doubling" is NOT recommended!

_________________________________
Joe Baker, who has been making beautiful music with his wife for nigh 20 years now!

LoyalTubist · Post by **LoyalTubist** » Tue Apr 18, 2006 2:36 pm

MaryAnn · Post by **MaryAnn** » Tue Apr 18, 2006 5:17 pm

Well....twice was enough. Grand total of 15 years, combined.

What I need is the male form of Bloke's / Rick's wives. All I seem to find is mooches and ne'er do wells. Or...as my best friend observed, they find me.

MA

Rick Denney · Post by **Rick Denney** » Tue Apr 18, 2006 6:21 pm

MaryAnn wrote:What I need is the male form of Bloke's / Rick's wives. All I seem to find is mooches and ne'er do wells. Or...as my best friend observed, they find me.

It's easy...you just have to be prepared to put up with grim, bookish and boorish pedants.

Rick "amazed by the coincidence of mooches and ne'er do wells with dashing good looks and suave charm" Denney

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Parents Crossing 50 years of hem...uh...wedlock

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