Yes, you only have one prom. Mine stunk. Band was bad. And my 2-year steady later dumped me. And perhaps your friends will all be on the trip...
BUT
Anyone can rent a cable channel these days. Bob's Used Cars is "televised". What if somebody screws up on national TV? "Chosen" can mean Disney goes for whomever's free. And the Prom is a right of passage.
So whatever you do, you and yours get what you can out of it and enjoy the good parts of the experience, don't dwell on what MAY have been. If you intend to perform for a living, this may be one of your last chances to even decide. Actually, the only way you can screw up is if you pick one and your significant other does the other...
Instead of talking to your plants, if you yelled at them would they still grow, but only to be troubled and insecure?
If it was anything like my prom, you should go to the brass thing. Mine was just a bunch of rap songs punctuated by some cheesy slow dances and a swing, (and it wasn't even good rap; the least they could have done was put on some Wu-Tang, but no.....) The post-prom was a lot of fun, though. I fought and won six rounds of bouncy boxing!
WOW!....I guess I'm the only one that had a good time at my prom. My date and I had such a good time we were disappointed that we didn't buy afterprom tickets. To be honest, we didn't think we were going to have that great a time at the prom, but we were wrong.
I've never heard anyone say that they regretted not performing at an event, but I have heard many say that they wished they had gone to the prom. Now there's a question for another thread.....
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I went to the Senior Prom. I had after-party tickets. I enjoyed my date's company, and we had a good time. We are still good friends 30 years later, and happily married (to, um, different people, heh, heh). Point is, I can't think of a single bad thing about my prom experience.
But it was not a once-in-a-liftime event. Frankly, I don't remember that much about it. In the events in my life that I like to recount to show remind myself that cool things have happened to me, it doesn't even make the list.
Playing accompaniment for the Canadian Brass--that makes the list. Watching my niece play at Carnegie Hall--that makes the list. Playing gigs at Fiesta Texas--that's on the list, too. I can think of any number of run-of-the-mill gigs that are more valuable memories than the prom.
That doesn't mean it will be that way for you.
In the end, it will be special for you and your girlfriend only if it's special for her. If she's been looking forward to the prom and has bought her dress and made plans around it, then going to play music will be a decision you make for your own satisfaction, not hers. If she thinks prom is stupid and would only go if there's nothing else to do, then playing music together will be better. Make sure the activity is something you can both own.
Rick "who thinks band guys usually can't dance" Denney
Except for the pictures under the arch and the guys and gals actually bothering to dress up, there was nothing about "prom" that made it any different than any other party at my high school. Those who had too large a dose of nostalgia put more importance on it than there was, because it was the last party of the school year. So I punted. I got my requirements finished, graduated at Christmas, went on to college, and was "shooting the lights out" (winning against all comers) on a pool table at a frat party, having much more fun, giving up the table only when I wasn't so "tired" I could still walk back to my dorm room.
Before you flip the coin, repeat to yourself a few times:
"Heads is the gig, tails is the prom,
heads is the gig, tails is the prom,
heads is the gig, tails is the prom."
Flip the coin high, catch it and trap it against your wrist.
DO NOT look at the coin.
Now, think back a few seconds, when the coin was in the air.
Your heart was hoping for one of the results.
Which result were you subconsciously hoping for?
TUBACHRIS85 wrote:Well....it seems I am going on the Jamestown trip. Unknown to me at the time during rehearsal last night, my mother put the NON-refundable down payment on it. So im going. However, new developments have arisen, but I wont mention anything due to its nature that have swayed me from wanting to go. That information I will keep to myself and with the members of the group.
[quote="TUBACHRIS85" And no, it does not involve anythin scandalous...
-tubachris
(Who is hoping the trip goes well without any remarks from certain people)[/quote]
You see, a scandal is what we were hoping for.
If you had gone to the prom and your "g-friend" made the trip, she would have you explaining who is, and the nature of the relationship you are having with the hussy that accompanied you.
As you age, my friend, you will find that it is nearly impossible to stay out of trouble with your significant other. Any possible infidelity,to her, becomes a definite infidelity that requires you to turn on the spit over the fire until she is convinced of your perfect innocence and devoted love.
Unfortunately, after going through all this, your bitterness may tempt you to seek the comfort of the tawdry love of a smokin' hottie.
My date and I had such a good time we were disappointed that we didn't buy afterprom tickets. To be honest, we didn't think we were going to have that great a time at the prom, but we were wrong. 
