Hard to choose....

[SplatterTone]

Seeing as how I can't dance, never could dance, and would look stupid trying to dance ......
Just curious: Is Carrie White planning on attending?

[TubaRay]

For me, the answer would be a "no brainer." The prom is just an over-hyped dance. Almost everyone gets a chance to go to the prom, but not everyone has the opportunity you have offered. That's my take on it. You may feel the prom is important, though. I don't.

[Tubaryan12]

I have to vote for prom. Unless you have a solo, you will be just one of many faces in a crowd. Like you said...simple performance. A guy at your level will have more of those than you will be able to remember. You will only have 1 senior prom.

[Mark]

For me, the answer would be a "no brainer." The prom is just an over-hyped dance. Almost everyone gets a chance to go to the prom, but not everyone has the opportunity you have offered. That's my take on it. You may feel the prom is important, though. I don't.

I agree with TubaRay, but I do think we should all give our ages along with our opinioins on this one. I suspect opur opinions are age related. I'm cough, cough years old.

[Chuck(G)]

I agree with TubaRay, but I do think we should all give our ages along with our opinioins on this one. I suspect opur opinions are age related. I'm cough, cough years old.

I'm not going to come down solidly on one side or other, but if you're really close to your ladyfriend, do something that will be yours and have some meaning and be very special.

For some, it's spending a small fortune on a night of dancing and drinking. For others, it might be making music together.

FWIW, for the last I-don't-know-how-many-years, my wife and I have spent our anniversary in rehearsal or at a concert--together. We think it's funny--and special.

[Dan Schultz]

.... my wife and I have spent our anniversary in rehearsal or at a concert--together. We think it's funny--and special.

Yea... go for the music gig! Our last anniversary was celebrated over a bottle of Apfelkorn while I played with the Rhein Valley Brass at the local German club.

[Tubaryan12]

.... my wife and I have spent our anniversary in rehearsal or at a concert--together. We think it's funny--and special.

Yea... go for the music gig! Our last anniversary was celebrated over a bottle of Apfelkorn while I played with the Rhein Valley Brass at the local German club.

This is more reason to go to the prom. You will have a lifetime of opportunities just like these....and only 1 chance to go to your prom.

[chipster55]

The very same weekend as the planned trip to this awsome event, is the same weekend of my SEINOR PROM

I have no idea as to what to choose. Either way, Jamestown, or prom, my girlfriend is going with me, she would also be playing in another group of the FYO.

Which would you choose?

-tubachris
( * * "Dee, Dee Dee...*sigh*)

Go to the gig - by then you'll know whether you're a SENIOR or a SEINOR - just kidding - have fun whichever you choose.

[quinterbourne]

If you're planning on having a performing career, you need to realize that everything but playing is at a lower priority. Opportunities such as this, if passed up, may make a difference - or may not, but you can't really take that chance.

If you consider yourself to be an amateur and are not planning a career in music, then go to the prom.

I'd also consider what rep you'll be playing down there. If you'll be playing something that demonstrates your playing ability, then you should probably do it. If the program is all Mozart, Beethoven and a little "practically-nothing part" overture, then it may not be worth your while.

[Doug@GT]

Go to Jamestown.

Proms are stupid.


Doug "noting that the answer really is that simple"

[Thomas Maurice Booth]

I went to my High School Prom and it was one of the biggest wastes of both time and money I have ever participated in. I would highly recommend going to Jamestown. You can take your girlfriend out dancing/ dining some other night and make a special night of it then, but if you don't go to Jamestown when will an opportunity like that present itself again?


TMB

[windshieldbug]

Hard to say...

Yes, you only have one prom. Mine stunk. Band was bad. And my 2-year steady later dumped me. And perhaps your friends will all be on the trip...

BUT

Anyone can rent a cable channel these days. Bob's Used Cars is "televised". What if somebody screws up on national TV? "Chosen" can mean Disney goes for whomever's free. And the Prom is a right of passage.

So whatever you do, you and yours get what you can out of it and enjoy the good parts of the experience, don't dwell on what MAY have been. If you intend to perform for a living, this may be one of your last chances to even decide. Actually, the only way you can screw up is if you pick one and your significant other does the other...

[tubafatness]

If it was anything like my prom, you should go to the brass thing. Mine was just a bunch of rap songs punctuated by some cheesy slow dances and a swing, (and it wasn't even good rap; the least they could have done was put on some Wu-Tang, but no.....) The post-prom was a lot of fun, though. I fought and won six rounds of bouncy boxing!

[Tubaryan12]

WOW!....I guess I'm the only one that had a good time at my prom. My date and I had such a good time we were disappointed that we didn't buy afterprom tickets. To be honest, we didn't think we were going to have that great a time at the prom, but we were wrong.

I've never heard anyone say that they regretted not performing at an event, but I have heard many say that they wished they had gone to the prom. Now there's a question for another thread.....

[Rick Denney]

I went to the Senior Prom. I had after-party tickets. I enjoyed my date's company, and we had a good time. We are still good friends 30 years later, and happily married (to, um, different people, heh, heh). Point is, I can't think of a single bad thing about my prom experience.

But it was not a once-in-a-liftime event. Frankly, I don't remember that much about it. In the events in my life that I like to recount to show remind myself that cool things have happened to me, it doesn't even make the list.

Playing accompaniment for the Canadian Brass--that makes the list. Watching my niece play at Carnegie Hall--that makes the list. Playing gigs at Fiesta Texas--that's on the list, too. I can think of any number of run-of-the-mill gigs that are more valuable memories than the prom.

That doesn't mean it will be that way for you.

In the end, it will be special for you and your girlfriend only if it's special for her. If she's been looking forward to the prom and has bought her dress and made plans around it, then going to play music will be a decision you make for your own satisfaction, not hers. If she thinks prom is stupid and would only go if there's nothing else to do, then playing music together will be better. Make sure the activity is something you can both own.

Rick "who thinks band guys usually can't dance" Denney

[iiipopes]

Except for the pictures under the arch and the guys and gals actually bothering to dress up, there was nothing about "prom" that made it any different than any other party at my high school. Those who had too large a dose of nostalgia put more importance on it than there was, because it was the last party of the school year. So I punted. I got my requirements finished, graduated at Christmas, went on to college, and was "shooting the lights out" (winning against all comers) on a pool table at a frat party, having much more fun, giving up the table only when I wasn't so "tired" I could still walk back to my dorm room.

[tubatooter1940]

Go to the prom. I your regular sweetie goes on the trip, this is your big chance to screw around on her.

[Brucom]

If you're going to flip a coin, do it this way:

Before you flip the coin, repeat to yourself a few times:
"Heads is the gig, tails is the prom,
heads is the gig, tails is the prom,
heads is the gig, tails is the prom."

Flip the coin high, catch it and trap it against your wrist.

DO NOT look at the coin.

Now, think back a few seconds, when the coin was in the air.

Your heart was hoping for one of the results.
Which result were you subconsciously hoping for?

DO NOT look at the coin.

Go with your heart.

[quinterbourne]

[DBCooper]

Prom blows. Go play. If your sweetie goes with you to play, do something with her in your off-time.

"Ya know, for someone who can't fly, you sure got balls."